My Local Midwife/OB VBAC Policy
In the interest of anonymity I will not tell you where I live exactly, or what practice I am speaking of in this post. I will tell you this: the trend is nationwide, it is staggeringly illogical and we need to do something about it.
I went in yesterday to my local OB/midwife group to see if they could get heart tones for me. I’ve had symptoms or warning signs of miscarriage for about 2 weeks and just couldn’t stand the “tentativeness” any longer. I needed to know.
I sat in the exam room, fully dressed still, as the midwife and a student midwife came into the room. I say “came into” but they really didn’t. Before they put down my chart, before they introduced themselves, before they even closed the door, they said that I needed to be aware of this hospital’s VBAC policy before they proceded with the appointment.
“Oh, I’m aware of it.” I said, smiling.
“Well good. Then next time you’ll be in to see a doctor and he will get you scheduled.”
“I won’t be in to see the doctor next time and no, we will not be scheduling me.” (for an elective section) Still smiling I added, “I’m here for THIS appointment today. That’s all. And just for the record, that policy stinks.”
She replied, “I understand. It’s not about us, it’s about anesthesia. They are the ones with the issue with it, they are why we don’t do them anymore. We don’t really know why.”
I said, “Yes, I’m aware of the ACOG bulletin regarding VBAC’s which is probably the “proof” they used to support their position. I’m also aware of the totally illogical presumptions that a VBAC ban is based on. If it’s unsafe for me , a VBAC mom, to birth here because I might need an emergency c-section and anesthesia isn’t always immediately available, then explain how it is safe for ANY woman to birth here. Suppose she has an abruption? Or non-reassuring heart-tones? Or any of the other hundred reasons women get sectioned these days?”
Deer in the headlights. Looks at the ground. She doesn’t like it either, but she’s stuck. Or maybe she doesn’t know what to do. I want to believe she knows better. She says, “Well I didn’t tell you this, but they can’t technically cut on you without your consent.”
“Oh yes.” chuckling now, “I know that full well. Trust me.”
I said all of this with my sweetest southern smile and tone of voice. Not inflammatory or rude or condescending. Just sweet, sweet, sweet.
The appointment continued with the student midwife doing the risk assessment, genetic screening questions come next.
“Does anyone in your family or the baby’s father’s family have mental retardation or autism?”
“Wow. I dont like that categorization of autism with mental retardation, but yes. My son has autism.”
“But you don’t want genetic screening test done?”
“No. I don’t.”
“Why not? You realize we can screen for some of these things?”
Oh give me a break! If we could screen for autism IN-UTERO then we’d have a CURE for it. Jeez Loueeez!!!!!!!!!!!! No less than 5 times did the subject of genetic screening come up. With LOTS of eye contact.
They were very kind and found heart tones (yeah!). I left with a script for prenatal vitamins, a packet about the lovely “birthing suites” my hospital has, a free formula coupon book (which they strongly discourage but still hand out), and a sheet of paper for blood work. Plus an appointment for an ultrasound next week to rule out multiple pregnancies or ectopic. Though I really dont’ have symptoms of either other than my uterus feeling a little bigger than 10 weeks.
Can we say… “Mul-ti-pa-ra” ????
Highly educational visit. I’m not sure what I want to do from this point on. Keep going to appointments, push this VBAC thing since I have a voice there now, while at the same time having NO intentions of delivering there? There is such a startling contrast in true midwifery care and hospital birthing care. Wow. I’m still shocked.
April 15, 2008 at 11:55 am
I was really shocked when I realized my midwives with my second pregnancy were really medwives….it just never occurred to me that this was possible.
Isn’t a midwife a midwife?
For my third pregnancy, I had a homebirth with a wonderful midwife who treated me with love and respect, not like an interruption in her already too busy day.
I know there are hospital affiliated midwives that are wonderful–I’m not trying to say they are all medwives…but it is sad that women are naive and optimistic like me and have to take the long road to finding what an empowered birth can be like.
April 15, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Whereas you had lots of eye contact through your appointment.
I did lots of eye rolling during your recounting of the appointment.
Yeah on the heart tones!
Boooooooo on the s&(* they are feeding you about being ‘banned’ from using your vagina!
April 15, 2008 at 12:55 pm
Isn’t it amazing when you know more than they do, and they act all surprised?
Good for you, mama. Call them on it.
April 15, 2008 at 6:47 pm
Too many rules; too little common sense!
April 15, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Well, I am not surprised, but sad about the VBAC ban. It is all too common today, that women are not being allowed the choice. I LOVE That you have the best answers. Part of me thinks you should keep going back and just give the OBs grief and give them these great comebacks. Really stick it to them. Rally women in your area to ban the banned hospital!
At the same time I don’t know that pregnancy is a time to get yourself riled up. But if you want a good fight, you know where to pick one.
April 22, 2008 at 8:06 am
Good grief this incites me to no end. What is wrong with the med-world today?
Glad to hear about the heart tones! Also love to hear that you “gave it back” to them, keep it up.
April 23, 2008 at 3:48 am
I’m also getting ready to try to find someone for my VBAC and it’s proving more difficult than I thought. I’m glad you’re strong and informed and aren’t afraid to tell people what you want.
May 1, 2008 at 2:30 pm
That’s awesome!!! Maybe it got them thinking a bit more - especially the student midwife. Yay for you for using your voice!!!! : )
And very glad they found heart tones.
May 3, 2008 at 1:44 pm
I dealt resistance to VBAC 21+ years ago, I thought by now the issue would have been settled. In my case they agreed until I was in the hospital. Then they did everything in their power to manipulate me into having the c-section. I was in no position to fight and had it. It makes me angry to this day.